Pleasure Of Our Company

Self-pleasuring or masturbation has a very negative implication for some people.  Many believe if you masturbate, it means you are a loser and can’t get a sex partner.  It can imply that you’re a sexual deviate or “oversexed” weirdo.  Some have religious objections to masturbation as they believe that sex is primarily for procreation and that God frowns upon any other sexual practice.

Well, let’s address these false and limiting beliefs about masturbation.  You’re not a loser if you masturbate. Yes, maybe you don’t have a lover currently but that doesn’t mean you should not enjoy the natural pleasure of sex. Many people with lovers also enjoy masturbating.  It’s easy to do, it can be as quick or as long as you’d like, and you don’t have to wait for your lover to come over or be in the mood.  You’re more guaranteed to have an orgasm (although some people…well, women specifically, don’t know how to give themselves an orgasm). You can learn what particularly turns you on and can practice different techniques that bring you to orgasm or just to a pleasant state right up to an orgasm.  (I’m not masturbating, I’m doing research!)

Unless you are letting your masturbation interfer with your daily activities or doing actual physical harm to your self, masturbation is not deviate behavior. Yes, there are people who have additive personalities that leads to problems just like any addiction. But the act of self pleasuring is not “weird” behavior in itself.  It is a natural, healthy expression of our sensual nature.  There are people with sexual addictions that have let masturbation and sex in general become a problem for them and there is treatment available to address this behavior.

Your religious beliefs may not “allow you” to masturbate.  As stated earlier, some believe sex is only for procreation and maybe for expressing love to your spouse. We believe these are man-made rules and not a true reflection of Universal Law or any Law of God.  We were provided with the most natural, pleasurable sensation imaginable and we don’t think God looks down in judgement when we experience it alone or shared with a partner.

So allow yourself the pleasure of your company with self pleasuring masturbation.  You can relieve tension, feel happy, and improve your sex through practice (remember, you’re doing research…).  Learn more about masturbation and the sex toys that can enhance your pleasure at our web site Passion Glow.com

Condoms Schmondoms

OK, some people STILL don’t think it’s important to use a condom & then they face unwanted pregnancies, infections, & possibly AIDS.  But condoms can make a world of difference in your life & allow you to avoid having to deal with any of the above mentioned situations.  Here is a brief rundown on condoms available for safe (& unsafe) sex.

Condoms are made from three basic materials; latex, polyurethane, & lambs skin.  Latex is the most common & provides the largest variety of selection. They can be lubricated, non-lubricated, textured, & even flavored.  Some people have an allergic reaction to latex but there are other choices of materials.
Polyurethane condoms are made of materials similar to plastic.  They are not as plentiful in choice variety & are not as elastic as latex, meaning they have a little looser fit. A little extra lubricant & conscious awareness of the fit will prevent breakage or slipping off during intercourse. They are thinner than latex which conducts heat better making for a nice feel. They are effective in preventing pregnancies & STD/HIV transmission though they are not yet approved by the FDA for pregnancy & STD transmission but studies are in progress to get approval.

Lamb skin is another condom alternative to latex. It is made from lamb intestine or membrane & is effective in preventing pregnancy but NOT from STD/HIV transmission due to it being more porous. They have a tighter fit & many people do find them a fine alternative to latex.

There is a new condom material available made by Lifestyles from polyisoprene which come from the sap of a hevea tree but has no latex . They fit similar to latex condoms.  This material is FDA approved in terms of pregnancy & STD prevention.

Another alternative is the female condom. These are made of polyurethane &, therefore,  latex free.  This give the woman full control on using protection & can be inserted up to 8 hours prior to sex. They can be a little tricky to insert so be sure to read the directions carefully.  They are inserted much like a diaphram would be used.

With all condoms, use a water based or silicone based lubricant for ease of penetration & reduce friction causing breakage. Polyurethane condoms can be used with oils, unlike latex condoms.  Flavored condoms should only be used for oral sex as the sugar flavoring can alter the Ph in the vagina or anus & lead to possible yeast or bacterial infection.

Other aspects to consider is size & texture. Find a condom that fits you properly & have fun “experimenting” with the different textures available to see what works for you & your partner.

Condoms don’t reduce the sensation of sex as much as people want to believe.  Besides, what’s wrong with lasting a little longer before orgasm anyway?
Condoms are easy to obtain & are the best protection we have for fun, safe sex.

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No Sex, Sex

Being sensual is not just the act of sex itself.  Sensuality can be expressed in a variety of ways.  The way you interact with your partner away from the bedroom, (or wherever you have sex) can add to the overall sensual experience of the relationship.
How you treat your partner in day to day encounters can be sensual. The way you talk to one another, & not just when talking about sex.  Expressing opinions to one another.  Listening to what the other has to say. Making requests of each other.  All can add to the relationship by showing respect for each other as individuals & truly being involved with your partner.
Touching does not need to be mostly for sexual encounters.  Holding hands, brushing the arm, shoulder, or cheek of your partner. Hugging (not groping) in a caring way, sitting close to each other, & even a little “footsies” play can all add to the sensual experience.  Some think this is the play of young people when they are “in love” but not as we get “older”.  But it’s the little types of touch & play that can keep the spark in a relationship going.
Lying in bed holding & touching each other without the expectation of going into a full sex act also contributes to your closeness. These moments can add anticipation for the next sexual encounter together.
So don’t forget the little ways that you can show your sensual side with each other & show that you truly care about each other in many ways.

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Sexy Gift Giving Ideas: Part 2

So you want to give your loved one something special, something intimate, something sexy, but not sure exactly what to do?  We explored some ideas on sexy, intimate gift giving for women in part 1.  Let’s see what sexy gifts guys would like.
There is an old joke that asks, how does a man seduce a woman?  The answer is flowers, chocolates, dinner, dancing, & gifts.  The joke goes on to ask, how does a woman seduce a man?  Show up naked!

Well, that can be true but you can REALLY impress & seduce him with a variety of sexy gifts for him, too.  Let’s take a look at what is available BEFORE you get naked.

Men, too, can enjoy scented lotions & oils as they are perfect to share with YOU in massage & foreplay. Make sure he is not allergic to certain scents.  Consider the pheromone scents which enhance sexual attraction.
You can also go with his favorite lubricant for him to use with you or for when he wants to enjoy time stroking alone. There are flavored lubricants for mutual oral sex & warming lubricants that warm to the touch or by blowing on them.  There are couples kits that have a variety of lotions & lubricants for your mutual pleasure.

BEFORE you get naked, you can always wear sexy lingerie that he will enjoy.  Buy something that you feel sexy & comfortable in or your discomfort with the clothing may inhibit your sex play. You can also buy him some sexy men’s clothing such as thongs or sheer, silky shorts.  Make sure he’ll feel comfortable wearing these items so you can both enjoy wearing sexy clothing together.

There are vibrating toys for men he may enjoy. There are vibrating cock rings that can add pleasure for both of you. These cock rings fit over his erect penis & can stimulate your clitoris along with stimulating his balls & perineum area (between the balls & anus).
He may just enjoy pleasing you with your favorite vibrator or dildo.  These toys are not a substitute for him but an added treat to enhance your sexual experience together. He can enjoy being able to please you in new ways.  Plus he may find the vibration stimulating on various parts of his body, too.

He may also be open to trying light bondage as a new approach to foreplay.  Place a soft, silky blindfold on him & you can massage, tease, & tickle him.  Add wrist or ankle cuffs & the anticipation will drive him wild.
There are couples kits & sex games for you to explore each others fantasies & have fun caressing & kissing each other as the game directs.  You could also share an educational DVD & explore new positions & foreplay techniques.  Or maybe you would both enjoy watching a featured length sex film & enjoy the sensual, erotic nature of the film.

If you know he would enjoy it, another toy to consider is a masturbation sleeve.  Just like a vibrator or dildo, these can be used by him alone or you can be the stroker. What a different way to please your man!  Be sure to use lots of lubricant & take your time. Like when you use a vibrator or dildo, this can be used by him when you’re not there or if you’re not in the mood. But make sure he does enjoy this type of toy to avoid embarrassing him.

There are many ways to enhance & add variety to your sexual expression.  Consider these gift suggestions for your man & always keep surprising him.

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Sexy Gift Giving Ideas: Part 1

So you want to give your loved one something special, something intimate, something sexy, but not sure exactly what to do?  We’ll explore some ideas on sexy, intimate gift giving for both men & women in a two part blog.

Let’s start with gift ideas for the ladies. The obvious items to start with would be scented lotions, powders, or sprays.  There are many different scents available so find out which scents or aromas she likes.  Make sure she’s not allergic to any of these scents.  There are many gift sets available that have a nice variety of items to choose from.  Many of these sets can be a nice way to share intimate time together as you use the oils & lotions for massage & foreplay.

Lingerie is another nice personal gift but you need to know her size & styles she is open to wearing.  Many styles of lingerie are very revealing & tantalizing for YOU but she needs to feel comfortable & attractive in it before she will wear it.  Make sure she is open to this type of intimate clothing & know what she, herself,  will feel sexy wearing.

You can go with her favorite personal lubricant as a stocking stuffer.  Find out if there is a type she would be interested in trying such as flavored lubricants or the warming lubes that heat up to touch or just blowing on them.

We don’t suggest you just give her a dildo or vibrator without knowing if this is something she does want. Does she have one already?  Do you know if she uses it alone or has she shared her dildo &/or vibrator use with you?  It could be embarrassing if she receives a vibrator or dildo if she’s never used one.

One type of vibrator to start with would be a bullet vibrator.  These are small vibrators that fit in the hand easily & are not intimidating in terms of size or use.  She can use it to massage various parts of her body & work her way to her genitals at her own pace.  They are battery powered & some are cordless.  This is an easy way to start exploring the use of a vibrator.  Then she can show you how she likes to use her new toy.

Now if you know she DOES enjoy using a vibrator or dildo, then you can introduce a type she has not tried, such as the Rabbit Vibrators, which are designed for both clitoral & vaginal stimulation.  Many are shaped especially for stimulating the G Spot & clitoris.  You could also introduce her to glass dildos.  Many will tell you there is nothing like the smooth solid feeling of a well lubed glass dildo.  Be sure to add lubricant in the gift package as vibrators & dildos need lubricant for slick, safe use.  Make sure you buy a water based lubricant with the dildo or vibrator as most oft these items are made from silicone & the material will break down with silicone lubricant.  And don’t forget extra batteries.

Then you can explore the couples kits that are geared to light bondage play. Again, make sure she is open to trying this type of sex play.  You can start with a blindfold & use the lotions or oils for a sensual massage.  Other kits have wrist or ankle cuffs to restrain movement.  You can then tease, tickle, & tantalize her slowly with the use of a feather, massage, & maybe a little light spanking.  Many find this type of play very exciting.

There are also educational DVD’s to explore new positions, techniques, & methods of sexual play.  Plus there are sex games available that help you explore each others fantasies & guide you through a variety of foreplay activities.

We’ll explore sexy gifts for men on part 2 of this series in this blog.

For more ideas on sexy, intimate gifts, go to www.passionglow.com

Sex Education

It’s sex. Everyone knows how to do it.  What do I need to learn?
That can be the belief by many regarding sex. What’s to know, just follow your feelings & do what feel good.  It’s a natural action & response that doesn’t need any formal “education”.  But that is how you can end up with unsatisfying & possibly even painful sex. That is why some people can be turned off by sex. They or their partner don’t know what they can do & sex can be very unsatisfying.  So let’s explore some key points about having enjoyable sex.

First, let’s distinguish between “sex” meaning intercourse & “sexuality” meaning the attitude & techniques one can use during sex.  Some aspects to consider are;

• Attitude towards your partner.

• Attitude about sex in general.

• What you consider “right” vs “wrong”

Attitude towards your partner can define how you treat them during sex.  Are they just a sex object to you? Someone to get you “off”?  Do you mutually agree that you are together to enjoy sex with one another but have no emotional commitment to each other?  Or do you have mutually shared emotional feelings of love & caring with each other?  These factors can help determine your approach to sex with that person.

What you believe about sex in general has a big influence about what you do & how you do it.  Is sex “dirty” to you?  It may be just a necessary obligation you perform because you “have to” as a married or committed couple.  Some do feel sex is ONLY for procreation & is only made enjoyable so you will be more willing to “do it”.
Is sex nasty but fun?  Sure, it feels good but there are those who feel the actions in themselves can be undesirable to do.  This can inhibit your lovemaking as you feel the actions are questionable even if can feel good at times.  Eventually, this attitude may inhibit sex play as you decide that the act is no longer acceptable or you’ve “done that enough”.

Sex can be a sensual experience that allows you to to show affection by pleasing & caring for your partner.  You can be open to explore many ways of pleasing each other.  You can discover what is acceptable for both of you without making each other feel uncomfortable or uncared for.
There may be actions you don’t feel comfortable doing due to a lack of knowledge about what is involved.  You can educate yourselves about oral sex, anal sex, or touching in a variety of ways.  You can gently try new things to see if they are enjoyable or something that doesn’t work for you.  There is nothing outside of you that determines what is “right” or “wrong”.  If it’s mutually agreed by both of you & it doesn’t cause harm, then it’s fine.  Yes, there are those who want “pain” with their sex but that’s a different story & this still needs to be mutually agreed upon & understood by both parties involved.

Be open to your partner’s needs & your own needs, too.  By exploring new ideas & techniques with your partner, you can spice thing up & keep sex exciting. If you are respectful & caring about each other, you can be assured that you’ll both have enjoyable sex together.

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Role Play For Fantasy Fun

What’s your fantasy?  We all have some kind of sexual fantasy we’d like to play out. Fantasy is a healthy way to allow ourselves to be someone different &, therefore, act in a different way. Taking on a new role in a fantasy gives us permission to try something our “normal” self wouldn’t do. Playing out a fantasy is a great way to spice up your relationship & your sex life.

Now some people REALLY get into fantasy. They take on a persona that is totally opposite of who they are regularly with their partner. Sometime one person takes on a role & other times both take on roles. The roles might be to play football hero, cheerleader, island native, gypsy dancer, cop, fireman (or woman), or bedroom nurse.

There are those who like to use fantasy for carrying out specific sexual activities such as using bondage.  Many couples explore the use of wrist & ankle cuffs, blindfolds, & other restraints. These can be carried out in a light-hearted way to allow one partner to tease & tantalize the other with touching, tickling, & light spanking as an erotic way of building sexual excitement.

Of course, there are those who take bondage to an advanced level where one is the dominate partner & the other is the submissive partner. This is something that couples need to discuss to determine how far each is willing to go with the act.  Many find this very exciting & erotic. This type of action is agreed upon by both people & both know how far they want to go.

A fantasy doesn’t have to be complicated.  It could be the woman wearing lingerie, body jewelry, or a different hair style & make up. Men can wear loin cloths, silk shorts or thongs, or other costuming. It takes trust in your partner to have fun with the fantasy & not make judgements about the fantasy itself.  If it’s not comfortable for you, it will be difficult to carry out comfortably.  Fantasy should be fun & exciting for both people invloved.

So why not try a fantasy sex night & see what exciting ways you can tantalize wach other in your new persona.

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Why Do I Need Sex Toys?

Well, maybe you don’t “need” sex toys. But they can be an enticing way of adding spice to your sexual play & expression.

Sex toys can help a women find what feels good to her & help her discover what methods bring her to orgasm. By using dildos, vibrators, & other items, a woman can find what movements & sensations she likes & share these with her partner.

Men can learn how to be pleasured without ejaculating too quickly. There are techniques to help a man enjoy the feeling of “orgasm” without ejaculating.

Just because your partner discovers the “joys of toys” doesn’t mean you are no longer needed in the bedroom. Couples can learn to use sex toys together & please each other in new ways. This can extend your sexual play time together & add a new sense of excitement for both of you.

If you haven’t tried sex toys, you should both take a look at the variety of toys available together, either in a store or on line. There are DVD’s & books available to help you learn how toys are used. You could find a toy on your own & then show your partner how the toy can add spice to your lovemaking.

Nothing can take the place of another human being expressing affection for you.  But sex toys can be a way of adding excitement to your sex play together.

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