Sex Education

It’s sex. Everyone knows how to do it.  What do I need to learn?
That can be the belief by many regarding sex. What’s to know, just follow your feelings & do what feel good.  It’s a natural action & response that doesn’t need any formal “education”.  But that is how you can end up with unsatisfying & possibly even painful sex. That is why some people can be turned off by sex. They or their partner don’t know what they can do & sex can be very unsatisfying.  So let’s explore some key points about having enjoyable sex.

First, let’s distinguish between “sex” meaning intercourse & “sexuality” meaning the attitude & techniques one can use during sex.  Some aspects to consider are;

• Attitude towards your partner.

• Attitude about sex in general.

• What you consider “right” vs “wrong”

Attitude towards your partner can define how you treat them during sex.  Are they just a sex object to you? Someone to get you “off”?  Do you mutually agree that you are together to enjoy sex with one another but have no emotional commitment to each other?  Or do you have mutually shared emotional feelings of love & caring with each other?  These factors can help determine your approach to sex with that person.

What you believe about sex in general has a big influence about what you do & how you do it.  Is sex “dirty” to you?  It may be just a necessary obligation you perform because you “have to” as a married or committed couple.  Some do feel sex is ONLY for procreation & is only made enjoyable so you will be more willing to “do it”.
Is sex nasty but fun?  Sure, it feels good but there are those who feel the actions in themselves can be undesirable to do.  This can inhibit your lovemaking as you feel the actions are questionable even if can feel good at times.  Eventually, this attitude may inhibit sex play as you decide that the act is no longer acceptable or you’ve “done that enough”.

Sex can be a sensual experience that allows you to to show affection by pleasing & caring for your partner.  You can be open to explore many ways of pleasing each other.  You can discover what is acceptable for both of you without making each other feel uncomfortable or uncared for.
There may be actions you don’t feel comfortable doing due to a lack of knowledge about what is involved.  You can educate yourselves about oral sex, anal sex, or touching in a variety of ways.  You can gently try new things to see if they are enjoyable or something that doesn’t work for you.  There is nothing outside of you that determines what is “right” or “wrong”.  If it’s mutually agreed by both of you & it doesn’t cause harm, then it’s fine.  Yes, there are those who want “pain” with their sex but that’s a different story & this still needs to be mutually agreed upon & understood by both parties involved.

Be open to your partner’s needs & your own needs, too.  By exploring new ideas & techniques with your partner, you can spice thing up & keep sex exciting. If you are respectful & caring about each other, you can be assured that you’ll both have enjoyable sex together.

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